Charity Danker, LPC and Certified Sex Therapist
Hello, I’m Charity, your holistic therapist. I am a licensed therapist and a certified sex therapist. I am passionate about positive sex education and empowering individuals to love themselves and live authentically. The most fulfilling part of the day is witnessing clients reach greater happiness and satisfaction with themselves and/or in their relationships.
I look forward to meeting you and helping you live a richly rewarding and authentic life.
Doing the hard work to overcome ongoing challenges in the relationship takes bravery. Overcoming trauma, resentment, poor communication, conflict, infidelity, sexless marriage, or opening up the relationship is not for the faint of heart and often requires guidance from a third party. To start the journey of going deeper and harder into vulnerability so you can create the relationship you desire, you should work with me. We will discuss past hurts and resentments, identify goals, set agreements, and design a clear path for you and your relationship.
The Therapeutic Process: You have taken a positive step by seeking therapy. The outcome of your treatment depends largely on your willingness to engage in this process, which may sometimes result in considerable discomfort. Remembering unpleasant events and becoming aware of feelings attached to those events can bring on intense feelings of anger, depression, anxiety, etc. There are no miracle cures. I cannot promise that your behavior or circumstances will change. I can promise to support you and do my very best to understand you, repeat patterns, and help you clarify what you want for yourself.
People often come looking for an “out of the box” way to overcome traumas, insecurities about self, negative scripts, anxiety, depression, etc. They desire to improve communication and intimacy within their relationships. This is not easy work. It is thought and emotion-provoking. Allowing one to grow and learn vulnerability. I believe it is also what allows one to find freedom within.
They also want deeper, more meaningful communication with their partners. Due to the nature of the topics we discuss and the exercises I introduce to clients, some might feel uncomfortable. I ask that you be honest with yourself and me every step of the way.
I utilize solution-focused, emotion-focused, mindfulness, cognitive behavioral, and various somatic approaches to help my clients. I do not sound like a Freudian therapist. My training has come from graduate and postgraduate resources. I am always learning and implementing what I learn into my work.
I will not just listen, nod, and say, “That’s interesting.” I will ask more questions, challenge, and be direct about my observations on the relationship dynamic. I am not always right, and I welcome the feedback when you think I am not seeing you. I consider myself to be a teacher and listener. I’m passionate about personal development, so I work with clients from a sincere place.
As some have said, this work is not for the faint of heart.
It will not always look like traditional therapy.
I use personal stories to illustrate relationship dynamics. If this is a problem, please communicate so I can provide you with the highest-quality sessions.
I give all clients at least 60 minutes. Sessions may run late, but I do not charge extra for the given time. I do not leave someone mid-thought or instruction. Please keep this in mind when I am running a little late for your appointment. I do try to stay on time.
I am not a medical doctor. However, I use a holistic approach with all clients. I am familiar with many vitamins and supplements that help with anxiety, depression, ADHD, low libido, hormonal imbalance, and decreasing cortisol levels. Any suggested vitamins or supplements are just suggestions. I recommend all clients speak to their medical doctor before taking new vitamins or supplements. You may even ask them to test for possible deficiencies.
WHO I WORK WITH IN THERAPY:
As of May 14, 2024, I will only accept new clients for INDIVIDUAL MENTAL HEALTH WORK in this therapy practice. Individuals do not include partners. One cannot start individually and then change to a couple. Should you desire to be seen as a couple, I will refer you to a different therapist.
Marriage counseling will be considered on a case-by-case basis. Marriage counseling with a heavy emphasis on intimacy/sex will be referred to the coaching practice or referred out to a different therapist.
All Sex Therapy, NON-Monogamous, or Kink therapy will all be referred to my coaching practice. Should a couple wish to work with me on their relationship/sexual dynamic, they will agree to be seen under Desire OKC Sexual Health and Wellness Center.
Individuals seen in the therapy practice will not be granted permission to attend Desire OKC Sexual Health and Wellness classes, workshops, retreats, or online courses.